I agree with you. Thanks for pointing this out. What's scary is that the best example I can think of is a heroine who isn't from urban fantasy - Silence of the Lambs, that relationship with Ardelia Mapp was wonderful, she was the one sticking her neck out, her coworkers varied but none of them were there at the denouement. Her mistakes were natural ones and she wasn't the one who let Lecter out.

Or a very old urban fantasy - Charles de Lint's novels set in Canada had a cast about evenly divided male-female and all the characters were memorable, they knew each other, the female characters had friendships with other women and the world seemed more natural. Mostly it was the subculture of bohemian artists and musicians being portrayed as a whole.

I'll keep this in mind when I write my Mage Cats series. The humans have friends. Or heck, their cats have friends so they meet friends. I'll try to put those friendships more on stage.