That's the huge killer for me. He presents it at what seems to me the worst time, drops this on her, then if she hesitates or balks, mows on as if she's given assent. He really does mow on as if she's a mere object for his use. I think a contract can be verbal, written, negotiated on site, in part but at no time does it feel to me she's given ANY chance to really understand and vocalize or express her wishes and have them honored. There lies the twitch for me.

I confess to having only skimmed it, I have zero intent of a full read, really.

I GET where control/rape-kink comes from but in my understanding even that is fairly negotiated.I wouldn't even lump it in "unhealthy", either. I think it can be perfectly healthy. Not every fantasy needs to or should be acted on.

i've read that erotica sells much more now with the advent of the kindle, the nook, the ereaders, because then there's no lurid cover, no one has to know you're reading a bit of spankfiction on the train. Maybe this wretched book will at least get people looking for the good fix.

( I think there's just as much issue in a vanilla relationship with unbalance, abusive partners, control issues, etc. i don't think I'd even call such things as in the book specific to bdsm alone, only that people new and dabbling will think it's "part of how it goes.")