ashbet: (Cav Wins Again)
ashbet ([personal profile] ashbet) wrote in [personal profile] elialshadowpine 2015-03-28 06:10 pm (UTC)

This was lovely to read :)

And, yes -- I love the people I love, friends and family, and I find them beautiful and radiant and compelling and desirable (when applicable) . . . whether or not they fit *any* societal definition of beauty. And I do my best to reaffirm that, every chance I get.

I'm not in a great place with body image self-acceptance at the moment (the changes to my body from a year and a half in a back brace have been difficult to deal with, particularly since I've lost all of my abdominal tone and am dealing with pain and weakness as a result), but a lot of it has to do with the way my body isn't *working*, rather than how it *looks*.

If I felt good, I'd have an easier time dealing with the changes in my weight and shape and face -- but, right now, it's a struggle. I certainly like many things about myself, I just would prefer to be in a better place with body acceptance, the way I had been before I started having back problems of this severity.

But this is a message that means a lot to hear, and thank you for posting it -- I may still be working on getting myself back into a good headspace, but seeing reinforcement of those philosophies always makes me happy :)

(Not fishing for positive feedback, I'm talking about my own self-perception and how it interacts with pain and disability, not about how others see me.)

<3!

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