Yeah, seriously. I have had experiences with doms who thought pushing my boundaries was a good thing, and, sorry, it's not. If the sub has something they want to do but are having bad reactions to and want to push it, that's one thing, but it should never be the dom instigating that.

There's a lot of misogyny and heteronormativity in the kink community, unfortunately, and doms like this guy flourish. It's part of why I haven't gotten involved in my local community, because I'm worried about if something should happen. There is a kink center in Seattle I'm curious about getting involved with, but only because they have women-only nights, and I feel a lot more trusting there (which is weird because I have had bad experiences with a pushy female domme, but, I find the behavior a lot more prevalent in male doms).