Makes sense. I'm no authoritative thing on BDSM but I've done a frackton of reading/thinking/research on what I find so much more interesting, on the mental/psych aspects of why people partake, and found some interesting blogs from doms who are as equally as introspective and its been a good foundation for my own ideas on what i'd want/not want, what to expect, how things might go.

( I don't identify as dom or sub, its a completely subjective thing at the moment. I can be one, I can be the other.)

The thing that jars me so much is I don't see much consent in the book. I see pressuring, badgering, coercion and manipulation and not a scenario where either character experiences real growth, or connection. Its so...just..clashy and wrong.

And yeah, it could totally set un-aware folk up for some abuse if theyre not careful. I really wish the writer had done her responsibility.