I think its in how Grey presents it. Not that they even discuss or negotiate, he just starts in on his games. Its all so very hinky. ( and as I read it, she was ok with fisting, but not sex, where I sort of presume the former requires much more finesse and trust and buildup, not that this guy would consider it.) he consistenly doesn't regard her wishes. Its bad dom. Your partner is trusting you. its a two way thing. Its not a take and take situation and the sub the giver alone. Augh. rant rant ranty. you know...

most of all, its that whole "people partaking are DAMAGED" sorts. Yes. please. portray that. Make it look like a playground for users. genius, EL, you donkey's arse of a writer.

He doesn't flog her hard, but even the contemplation or half-acted doing so is so EPICALLY WTF in my book.