I think a contract makes sense.Got no problem however people want to negotiate or implement one. Its just that the one in the book isn't really addressed and when it is, the protagonist completely disregards it anyway. he brings it up. insists on it, and turfs it, as far as I can tell. Her wishes, her needs, mean NOTHING.
I know quite a few people in happy kink sex communities, there's always bound to be drama when there's other people, but No happy? Not sure I believe that. I just think the drama stirrers in groups get more control than they deserve to be given. It would be like saying there's no such thing as a happy straight vanilla community.
The issue I have with the book extends to people thinking this is the way of a normal BDSM/ or ANY relationship, and that women are swoonypants over this horrible horrible dynamic. I wouldn't have expected the writer to make this a teachable lesson book, but the least she could have done was written it less ghastly and abusive. But if it's ripping from the same screwy relationship from Twilight, I'm not the least bit shocked. Neither author did any research or thinking and now we have girls thinking these sorts of situations are normal.
Its not like harry potter, we all know magic is fake. Its a real life topic, and issue, and practice, and in my view, incredibly stupid of her to present it the way she did.
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I know quite a few people in happy kink sex communities, there's always bound to be drama when there's other people, but No happy? Not sure I believe that. I just think the drama stirrers in groups get more control than they deserve to be given. It would be like saying there's no such thing as a happy straight vanilla community.
The issue I have with the book extends to people thinking this is the way of a normal BDSM/ or ANY relationship, and that women are swoonypants over this horrible horrible dynamic. I wouldn't have expected the writer to make this a teachable lesson book, but the least she could have done was written it less ghastly and abusive. But if it's ripping from the same screwy relationship from Twilight, I'm not the least bit shocked. Neither author did any research or thinking and now we have girls thinking these sorts of situations are normal.
Its not like harry potter, we all know magic is fake. Its a real life topic, and issue, and practice, and in my view, incredibly stupid of her to present it the way she did.