All i can assume is that the "tee hee scandalous! taboo" nature of a kink relationship is getting them.
And a general population's rather narrow idea of how vanilla is vanilla, and what crosses the line to kink, even if the line's fairly fuzzy, the terms a wide river, and if its consentual and adult, its fairly damn normal. Society has a fairly rigid notion of what proper sex is, and given that you can show people getting blown to bits or raped on TV, but you can't show a boob or a woman in orgasm or a same sex kiss without the universe crashing down...its a puritanical view of sexuality that drives this. Women are not to enjoy kink, and its always the mens pushing it sort of thing.
So when a woman writes this, as horrible as it is, it's, I believe, a case of "Ana is PUSHED, she has no choice and likes it" and it takes the responsibility and ownership of her body and sex life off the table. After all, she's doing it for love. If she was dominant or equal or balanced in the tale, that would mean she had ownership of her sexuality and that really freaks out people.
( in my armchair pysch view.) its a fantasy of "I'm not responsible!"
frankly, I'd rather have the ownership for my kink preferences. That's fun.
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All i can assume is that the "tee hee scandalous! taboo" nature of a kink relationship is getting them.
And a general population's rather narrow idea of how vanilla is vanilla, and what crosses the line to kink, even if the line's fairly fuzzy, the terms a wide river, and if its consentual and adult, its fairly damn normal. Society has a fairly rigid notion of what proper sex is, and given that you can show people getting blown to bits or raped on TV, but you can't show a boob or a woman in orgasm or a same sex kiss without the universe crashing down...its a puritanical view of sexuality that drives this. Women are not to enjoy kink, and its always the mens pushing it sort of thing.
So when a woman writes this, as horrible as it is, it's, I believe, a case of "Ana is PUSHED, she has no choice and likes it" and it takes the responsibility and ownership of her body and sex life off the table. After all, she's doing it for love. If she was dominant or equal or balanced in the tale, that would mean she had ownership of her sexuality and that really freaks out people.
( in my armchair pysch view.) its a fantasy of "I'm not responsible!"
frankly, I'd rather have the ownership for my kink preferences. That's fun.