We change it by confronting it. By writing something better. By saying malicious coercion is not sexy.
We teach girls that it is THEIR body, their choice, their boundaries however they choose to exert them. Not this "be pure", no shaming. We stop teaching boys that the domain of women is theirs to help themselves to. We stop selling coercion as normal, and start selling healthy kink and sexual expression in consensual relationships as the thing.
( i find north american society so hideously puritanical and pearl clutchy, after three months in amsterdam, I found the honesty in which people tended to address all things sexuality as quite refreshingly nice.)
There's a certain head-kick that comes from "coercion" kink, cuckolding but that's not what 50 shades presents at all, of course.
We change things by being honest about sexuality, expression of, and issues with. And presenting better fiction, I think.
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We teach girls that it is THEIR body, their choice, their boundaries however they choose to exert them. Not this "be pure", no shaming. We stop teaching boys that the domain of women is theirs to help themselves to. We stop selling coercion as normal, and start selling healthy kink and sexual expression in consensual relationships as the thing.
( i find north american society so hideously puritanical and pearl clutchy, after three months in amsterdam, I found the honesty in which people tended to address all things sexuality as quite refreshingly nice.)
There's a certain head-kick that comes from "coercion" kink, cuckolding but that's not what 50 shades presents at all, of course.
We change things by being honest about sexuality, expression of, and issues with. And presenting better fiction, I think.