See, I didn't actually totally mind that, because I have laid out things that I considered non-negotiable. And Ana did negotiate with him; some things, he agreed to change, and others, he said were things he wasn't willing to budge on. I don't actually think that's a huge problem, because at that point, he wasn't pressuring her. He was telling her up front, "If you want a sexual relationship with me, this is what I expect."

Later on is when the pressure started, because she hadn't agreed to the terms, and he was treating her as if she had, and punishing her as if she had. Which is not fucking okay, and THAT is where I have the huge issue. At that point, he should have negotiated each scene separately, or stuck to non-kink.

Yeah, I didn't even touch the "only damaged people are into BDSM", because that's just such a clusterfuck on its own, and unfortunately VERY common in BDSM/flavored romance. :-\