I haven't read 50 Shades, though I have access to a copy, after hearing about a scene where he literally rips a tampon out of Ana to have sex with her, I was like LOL what? and just have not bothered to read it.
That said, this article gives me a lot of heebie jeebies about the book. I am not actively participating in the BDSM subculture currently, but I have seen plenty of similar stories to yours.
Christian is a startling realistic Dominant that borders on abuse on his good days, and is far darker on his bad. Honestly, this isn't that far from 50's source material, where Edward was a creepy controlling stalker.
I knew a girl who was 16-17, and was basically just becoming aware she was really interested in BDSM. An older male member of this message board we all used to be members of found out and zeroed in on her almost instantly after all but ignoring her before. We became aware he was pretending to be a Dominant just to basically get close to her, and they were planning a meetup at some point, and it eventually happened. He talked about how he beat her so badly she couldn't walk properly, how he broke a belt on her, and hit her with a coatrack in the hotel room they were in. She was distraught after their first meeting, but sighed it off and said, "Well, he's my Dom, I guess this is what it's like." I tried to tell her that it was wrong what he did, but she had no other experience to compare it to, and just assumed to get the kinky sex she wanted, she had to put up with outright abuse. Sadly, I don't know what ever happened to her, but I hope she's okay.
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Date: 2012-05-06 03:17 pm (UTC)That said, this article gives me a lot of heebie jeebies about the book. I am not actively participating in the BDSM subculture currently, but I have seen plenty of similar stories to yours.
Christian is a startling realistic Dominant that borders on abuse on his good days, and is far darker on his bad. Honestly, this isn't that far from 50's source material, where Edward was a creepy controlling stalker.
I knew a girl who was 16-17, and was basically just becoming aware she was really interested in BDSM. An older male member of this message board we all used to be members of found out and zeroed in on her almost instantly after all but ignoring her before. We became aware he was pretending to be a Dominant just to basically get close to her, and they were planning a meetup at some point, and it eventually happened. He talked about how he beat her so badly she couldn't walk properly, how he broke a belt on her, and hit her with a coatrack in the hotel room they were in. She was distraught after their first meeting, but sighed it off and said, "Well, he's my Dom, I guess this is what it's like." I tried to tell her that it was wrong what he did, but she had no other experience to compare it to, and just assumed to get the kinky sex she wanted, she had to put up with outright abuse. Sadly, I don't know what ever happened to her, but I hope she's okay.