Yeah, and there are definitely doms out there that prey on young, naive women who don't know any better.
There are classes. The problem is that the people teaching the classes are not always trustworthy. There's a huge problem with people that are well-known in the kink community, that teach classes, and associate with newbies, and help people learn the ropes, that then take advantage of these people (frequently women).
I generally advise people to go with a friend who is experienced and aware of these things. Problem is, a lot of people like to view the community through rose-colored glasses and don't believe that bad stuff happens there. And it does; the dark side of consent being important is that people who manipulate others into consenting to things they don't want, or sometimes even violate consent entirely, get a pass. And some communities are worse then others.
If you did get involved, I would just go to munches and socialize with people and not play until you have a better idea who is and isn't trustworthy.
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regna
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Date: 2012-05-07 02:34 pm (UTC)There are classes. The problem is that the people teaching the classes are not always trustworthy. There's a huge problem with people that are well-known in the kink community, that teach classes, and associate with newbies, and help people learn the ropes, that then take advantage of these people (frequently women).
I generally advise people to go with a friend who is experienced and aware of these things. Problem is, a lot of people like to view the community through rose-colored glasses and don't believe that bad stuff happens there. And it does; the dark side of consent being important is that people who manipulate others into consenting to things they don't want, or sometimes even violate consent entirely, get a pass. And some communities are worse then others.
If you did get involved, I would just go to munches and socialize with people and not play until you have a better idea who is and isn't trustworthy.